But there are parellels.  My life is pretty much lived online.  I shop online.  I listen to 99% of my music online (either on my phone or my laptop) and I even met my girlfriend online.  Right to the point where we have dated for 9 years and only this year met. 

And yes, physical contact is proving awkward.  I mean, she knows I am Autistic and gets it and is very understanding.  And there is the fact that she can't handle my meltdowns.  I have a coping strategy but it isn't any easier on those around me.  Rather than be outwardly destructive, I am inwardly destructive.  Take today for example - both my parents found it hilarious to mock the fact that I wanted to finish my meal before calling a friend back, entirely missing the point that I hate using phones.  So, I looked to my girlfriend for support, and she took my plate and said "just call Mike and then come finish your meal".  She more than anyone knows I hate using phones, so I melted down.  And she was awesome as usual, giving me hugs and cuddles and reassurance - precisely what I need.  And I was coming out of it and then my mother said "did you phone mike?  No?  Didn't think so!  I don't know eh Ale?  Useless!"  Just what I needed.  But my girlfriend was fantastic and reassured and cuddled me again.

So, in a way, I am living the Tron lifestyle - more cyber than real.  And I love it.  Real life is limiting, the virtual and online worlds are where I can be me.

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